that last post doesnt mean im sad or anything haha. It’s just stuff i wanted to get off my chest and down somewhere so i could come back and see it when I need to. I’m all good! Just myself and others around me have been dealing with the problem of loneliness and I wanted to bring attention to it too. So that people are a little more aware of it and can help each other get through it, cause it really is a tough thing to feel. Just be sure to check in with people now and again on how they’re feeling, cause I know that really makes people know you care about them.
That feeling of being left out truly sucks. i’ve felt it the past few weeks at random times and i just wanted to touch on it. It makes you feel like nobody cares, and that everyone is ignoring you. As if you were an afterthought to everyone else who you’re with. Like no one really cares. It’s an extremely difficult feeling to cope with, but whenever i feel it i always think to myself a few things. I try and remember that everyone is doing their own thing, and theyre not always going to be focused on you. Also, i think about how none of it is intentional, and how sometimes its just how the pieces of the puzzle fall. It’s tough admitting those things, but i feel as though it is necessary. I really just try to think about putting myself more into the group, and more into activities that others are doing. People never really call or text me asking me to hang out. No one ever really thinks “hey, let’s invite Mason to do this!” I mean it happens occasionally, but for the most part it doesnt. It has taken me a long time to realize that this doesn’t mean that people don’t care about you, it just means that people also have themselves to take care of. Accepting that was probably the hardest. Now the tough part is getting out of this feeling; to not feel so alone and left out. It starts with how others react to you. If you notice someone is quiet in a group, acting a bit off, and just kind of keeping to themselves, most likely they feel alone and left out. How can you help? Include them. I know it sounds easy, but really its not. I always feel even more left out when I go into a group thing, and then everybody goes off and does their own thing with other people. Really, just try and include everybody and it will help the problem. Talk to the person. Show them that you care. Even doing that will significantly improve how they feel. I would know, I’ve experienced the very thing. I can not stress enough how bad feeling alone is. And how some simple actions from friends can change it. Things like talking to that person, interacting with them, and truly showing that you acknowledge and are happy that they are there. I’ve been dealing with this and just had to get it off my chest. I hope after reading this (or not reading and just skimming instead) that you can learn to help friends who feel alone, distraught, and just plain left out. Show them that you truly care. It makes all the difference.
On another note, another thing I want to quickly say is to be open minded. Especially about how other people are. Just know that everyone’s different, everyone changes, and everyone has a purpose. Really showing someone you care for them is a great feeling. I hope to do that in the future, and I know others around me are starting to do the same. Thanking people for making them who they are today, making up for things they’ve done, and starting a fresh new chapter in life. A new start is the most refreshing thing I can think of for everyone right now.
